You're hyperarticulate, self-aware, and intellectually sophisticated.
You've done the therapy. Read the books. Understand your patterns.
But when your partner says that one thing, your body still reacts the same way.
When your boss gives feedback, you still shut down or snap back.
You know why you do it. You just can't stop doing it.
This isn't about understanding yourself better.
This is about whether you get to live the life you've worked so hard to build.
That's a memory system problem.
You've been working with the wrong memory system.
Therapy worked with your explicit memory - the memories you can talk about, the stories you can tell.
But your patterns live in procedural memory - body-based responses that operate completely outside conscious awareness.
You can't talk your way out of procedural memory.
I've written a detailed article that explains exactly why talk therapy fails hyperarticulate, self-aware, intellectual women - and what actually works instead.
It includes:
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